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The Grieving Process
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
How to Handle Grief
While the grieving process is different for each of us, we all experience some common feelings as we work toward healing from our loss.
Stage 1
Denial
When you find yourself in the phase of denial, it is easy to be consumed by false ideations about the reality of a situation. Pushing your worries aside and ignoring the tragedy is a part of the process and can actually be an effective way to grieve. Denial lets you take in the amounts you are capable of handling at the time. Eventually, accepting the reality of the situation begins to become clear, and you slowly begin the healing process. The denial begins to fade and your feelings begin to reach the surface.
Stage 1
Denial
When you find yourself in the phase of denial, it is easy to be consumed by false ideations about the reality of a situation. Pushing your worries aside and ignoring the tragedy is a part of the process and can actually be an effective way to grieve. Denial lets you take in the amounts you are capable of handling at the time. Eventually, accepting the reality of the situation begins to come clear, and you slowly begin the healing process. The denial begins to fade and your feelings begin to reach the surface.
Stage 2
Anger
There comes a time when you may feel resentment and anger. You have now entered the second stage of grief. Your search for someone or something to blame, whether it be yourself, God, the physician, or even the person who passed away for abandoning you. Do not feel isolated when having these thoughts, these feelings are completely normal and happen very often when dealing with grief.
Stage 2
Anger
There comes a time when you may feel resentment and anger. You have now entered the second stage of grief. You search for someone or something to blame, whether it be yourself, God, the physician, or even the person who passed away for abandoning you. Do not feel isolated when having these thoughts, these feelings are completely normal and happen very often when dealing with grief.
Stage 3
Bargaining
There comes a time when you may feel guilty for the person's passing. You tell yourself that there could have been something done to prevent it from happening, something that you could have done. You may try to pray for a trade-off of some kind, negotiating with God. Don't be consumed by the "if onlys" or any theoretical situations, this will only make you feel more guilty. Try to have an open mind, and begin to understand the situation in a logical and accepting way.
Bargaining
Stage 3
There comes a time when you may feel guilty for the persons passing. You tell yourself that there could have been something done to prevent it from happening, something that you could have done. You may try to pray for a trade off of some kind, negotiating with God. Don't be consumed by the "if onlys" or any theoretical situations, this will only make you feel more guilt. Try to have an open mind, begin to understand the situation in a logical and accepting way.
Stage 4
Depression
There will most likely be a period where you feel empty inside. This is the state of depression. This stage may feel like it will never end, and the pain will last forever. Struggling to wonder if it is worth going on in life, questioning life itself. You must understand that depression is the most common coping mechanism for loss. To not feel depressed after losing someone you care about would be unusual. Accepting that your loved one will not be coming back is a very difficult concept to understand, you must be strong and push forward.
Stage 4
Depression
There will most likely be a period where you feel empty inside. This is the state of depression. This stage may feel like it will never end, and the pain will last forever. Struggling to wonder if it is worth going on in life, questioning life itself. You must understand that depression is the most common coping mechanism for loss. To not feel depressed after losing someone you care about would be unusual. Accepting that your loved one will not be coming back is a very difficult concept to understand, you must be strong and push forward.
Stage 5
Acceptance
Accepting the loss of a loved one is commonly misconstrued with the feeling of being, "completely fine" or "alright". At this point, you have finally come to terms with the reality of the situation and have accepted this new reality as the permanent one. We find ourselves adapting to the world in which our loved ones are no longer physically a part of us. Learning to live in this new environment can be extremely uncomfortable. You may find yourself trying to live as if nothing happened, the way life was before their passing. Eventually, pieces of acceptance will guide you to readjust and adapt. Once you begin to find peace and live your life again, you may feel as if you are betraying your loved one. You cannot ever replace what has been lost, but you can always seek new connections, relationships, and interdependencies. It is only natural to grow and evolve, change, and move forward. But, we must allow the grieving process to run its course.
Stage 5
Acceptance
Accepting the loss of a loved one is commonly misconstrued with the feeling of being, "completely fine" or "alright". At this point, you have finally come to terms with the reality of the situation and have accepted this new reality as the permanent one. We find ourselves adapting to the world in which your loved one is no longer physically a part of us. Learning to live in this new environment can be extremely uncomfortable. You may find yourself trying to live as if nothing happened, the way life was before their passing. Eventually, pieces of acceptance will guide you to readjust and adapt. Once you begin to find peace and live your life again, you may feel as if you are betraying your loved one. You cannot ever replace what has been lost, but you can always seek new connections, relationships, and interdependencies. It is only natural to grow and evolve, change and move forward. But, we must allow the grieving process to run its course.
